A Guide to Dropping Your Illusions: The Way to Love by Anthony de Mello (PDF)
“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?”
Before searching for the PDF, you must understand the radical source. Anthony De Mello (1931–1987) was an Indian Jesuit priest and psychotherapist. He was controversial for his time. While the Vatican later criticized some of his ideas for being "silent on the necessity of Christ," the public never stopped reading him.
He stopped "trying" to love the life he had and simply began to it without judgment. In that moment of awareness , the "Way to Love" opened to him. He didn't need the ring to be happy; he only needed to drop the illusions that told him he was unhappy without it. He walked back to his cabin, finally free, leaving the ring—real or imagined—exactly where it belonged: in the depths, where it could no longer touch him.
Our perception is often clouded by three major "filters" that prevent us from seeing—and therefore loving—others clearly: